Source: Adult Industry News
By: KellyFire
I spend a few hours everyday in various chat rooms, including my own (accessible from my website, www.KellyFire.com). Of the hundreds of questions asked, the ones that I enjoy the most are for sex advise. I might not have the Ph. D of the radio sex therapist, but at least my audience knows that I am speaking from experience and not from a textbook. The question on everyone’s mind these days is “What is the right way to have anal sex?” I doubt that there is any one “right way“, but the following might help.
Benefits to a Woman: OR why she should even try it?
Most women, who I’ve asked, agree that anal sex gives the most intense orgasms imaginable. They say it gives them the ability to cum more often or more easily even for regular sex. It teaches her to surrender trust completely while maintaining complete control in the act. Some women use it to preserve their virginity. Others give a second virginity away the first time they try anal sex. There is less risk of pregnancy and anal gives women the ability to have sex even when other areas are “unavailable”. Lastly, the ass is elastic and can tightly fit a variety of sizes, making the possibility of future sex fun almost limitless. (Personally, I prefer anal sex, for both the intensity and the ability to fit the large guys, prevalent in this business, which would otherwise make sex painful).
Appeal to Men: OR what is the big deal anyway?
Guys are turned on by the social taboos of anal; it is considered forbidden and nasty. If his girl is willing to try it, that tells him that she is a real tiger in bed, and he feels like he has won the prize of a wildly sexual woman. The level of trust that is necessary tells him that he turns her on. But most importantly, when a man sees his girl have that earth-shattering orgasm, he feels like a super-stud, a sexual stallion, and the world’s greatest lover.
Communication: OR how to talk about a touchy subject?
Anal sex is not something that you casually spring upon someone. And if you just try to switch holes in the middle of sex, don‘t be surprised when you get kicked in the balls. Your girl has to want anal. Even when a woman is eager to try it, problems are encountered. (Of all the requests I get for info on this topic, most come after the couple has unsuccessfully tried it). So this is very important, keep those lines of communication open. Let her know what a turn on this is for you, even when success isn’t instantaneous, let her know the act of trying is extremely arousing, and why. She must trust that you won’t slam it in, hurting her or get grossed out if things don’t go as well your fantasies envisioned. Lastly, she has to be able to relax a difficult thing when she is worried about having an “accident”. What I am talking about is the fear that things are going to turn shitty. This is the reason anal isn’t spontaneous; it requires preparation.
What I Do To Prepare?
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