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By: Dave Cummings
What’s up with the choking, slapping, spitting, and rough sex in some porn releases? And, those oral sex gaggings! What’s sensuous about it? What’s sexy about it? What message might some viewers, especially guys, possibly/wrongly assume from seeing such aberrations in adult films and mistakenly rationalize it as normal or Ok, and later try to copycat it into their own sexual relationships?
Now, I admit that I’ve heard lots of women on sets and in the swinging world comment about the joy and pleasure they get from being “taken”, or “dominated”, or made to “subordinate” themselves to the pleasures of their guy; I respect their choices and right to participate in such sexual practices, but I sometimes wonder if perhaps some of these ladies think (or were pushed to think?) that they truly enjoy handing over sexual control, when unfortunately some of them might possibly suffer from low self-esteem or some other disorder, or from a persistence from a husband/boyfriend who’s seen such acts in some adult films and has pushed them into it.
I think such women in society are in an extremely low percentage relative to females who might want just a good hard pounding during sex, or a good old-fashion sweat filled sex-fun time; or, women who want sex and love-making to be intermingled within their intimate and behind-closed-doors sessions with their mate.
I’m worried, though, that companies highlighting such “rough” behaviors see enough patronage sales that they will continue putting out such content, possibly “raising” new viewers to expect their future sexual partners to welcome the fantasy depicted on film.
Male teens growing into manhood and viewing such acts possibly don’t easily realize that what they view on their screens are actors/actresses and consenting adults “acting” and depicting fantasy, not normal reality! I hope such releases aren’t inviting, indeed pushing, future government intervention into our First Amendment rights. And, I certainly hope we don’t have a terrible accident someday on a set and end up with a choking “act” mistakenly ending in an injury or death!
If I personally could wave a magic wand, it would be for all adult video producers to cease depicting the aforementioned. As a viewer, I want to see sexy couplings that sexually turn me on, not unrealistic physical acts of an almost-violent nature that disgusts me, as it probably also does to many other viewers and potential customers.
What I opined above has been on my mind for a long time. I’ve anguished over it, and I hope that things significantly improve. What’s been released in the past hasn’t been unlawful, but I also worry that some of it hasn’t been very responsible either, or good counsel for some impressionable viewers. I think our right to free speech also encompasses a responsibility on our part to foster good, respectful, and proper behaviors. Just like it’s wrong to falsely scream “fire” in a crowded theater, I feel that it’s wrong to portray sexually aberrant depictions as anything but abnormal fantasy—not reality!
Speaking of our right to make and view adult films, the recent Free Speech Coalition’s annual lobbying seminar and appointments with legislators and staff personnel at the California Legislature in Sacramento was another resounding success. The Free Speech Coalition officials are super-smart folks, dedicated to head off potential problems before they become law. The four Industry folks on my team, including actress Inari Vachs, found that we were truly welcome in the legislator’s offices, not just tolerated. Heck, it seems that even Government people have the natural, normal, and healthy sexual needs that the citizenry has! Along with a plethora of Industry personnel, the other actresses on teams addressing issues with legislators included Nina Hartley, Stormy, Sunny Leone, and Brittany Andrews.
Lots of shoots this past month! I especially enjoyed Wildlife’s “Screw My Wife, Please, Vol 48” in which I got oral sex from each and every wife in the film. Yup, I’m a pervert! I’m hearing that Vol 50, which will be filmed the month after next, will be especially sex-filled and special. I think getting to 50 volumes is quite an accomplishment, and a special salute to Director Bobby Rinaldi; I look forward to working towards 100 volumes of it!
I’ve got some personal thoughts about the changed and constantly changing “community standards” in America, something that I feel favorably impacts upon the rights of adults in America to view porn. But, it’ll have to wait until next month’s column. Until then, celebrate the American Constitution and our Free Speech rights.
I wish a super-nice summer for everyone, one filled with happiness, good health, and great sex!
Dave Cummings,
