(Edinburgh, UK / August 21, 2023) –Clinical psychologist and acclaimed sex/intimacy coach Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey exposes the subtle manipulation of ‘breadcrumbing’ in modern dating – a trail of empty promises that leaves hearts hanging.
“Breadcrumbing is when the person has no intention of taking things further, but loves the attention so they send messages, flirt and do things to keep you interested and involved,” explains Bisbey of the behavior, which often entails “flirty texting until you ask to talk or meet, then ghosting for a few days, then texting again, moving to light sexting, a phone call and then excuses to dial contact back down.”
Bisbey asserts that his type of behavior “can encourage someone to divert energy, time, attention and money to try to move things forward while knocking their confidence, self-esteem and make them feel a bit crazy, as they are being gaslit.”
She recommends direct communication to discern intentions and set clear boundaries to avoid the emotional pitfalls of breadcrumbing. “Once you realize the person is breadcrumbing, my best tip is: if you want an actual relationship, move on and find someone who wants an actual relationship with you. Breadcrumbing is all about them getting their need for attention met and doesn’t consider you or your feelings, needs or desires at all.”
Bisbey can currently be seen in Channel 4 (UK)’s hit reality series Open House: The Great Sex Experiment and across the UK on a summer speaking tour, hosting discussion topics such as “The Psychology of Fetish and Kink” and “Defining Dominance”.
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ABOUT DR. LORI BETH BISBEY:
Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey is a clinical psychologist, accredited advanced GSRD therapist, sex/intimacy coach, author, speaker and podcast host based in Edinburgh. With more than 30 years helping people create and sustain meaningful and exciting relationships, Dr. Bisbey specialises in GSRD (gender, sexuality, relationship diversity), is consensual non-monogamy and kink BDSM knowledgable and helps traumatised people to move from victim to survivor and back into life.
On a mission to create an open dialogue about sex, relationships and authenticity, Dr Bisbey is the Specialist Relationship Therapist on Open House: The Great Sex Experiment on Channel 4, and host of the weekly podcast The A to Z of Sex®, as well as a passionate speaker, dynamic workshop facilitator and sought-after expert in the media on the topics of sex, sexuality, intimacy, relationships and sexual trauma.
Dr. Bisbey is the author of Chopping Wood, Shaping Metal & Other Erotic Stories, Dancing the Edge to Reclaiming Your Reality: Essential Life Skills for Gaslighting (and Trauma) Survivors and Dancing the Edge to Surrender: An Erotic Memoir of Trauma and Survival, and identifies as a queer consensually non-monogamous leather woman, and is in a full-time authority transfer-based relationship with her husband. To learn more, visit DrLoriBethBisbey.com.
