Dave Cummings on Aging

From the Trenches by: Dave Cummings—Porn Star/Producer/Director

Other than being a niche (older guy-younger porn actresses), getting older is a pain. The hair that formerly was on my head now seems to grow mainly in-and-on my ears, and in my nose. Every time I get out of my car after driving back from my almost daily 4-6 mile sorta brisk walk at San Diego beaches I feel the stiffness and back pain. Usually, in my business, “stiffness” is a good thing, but as a senior citizen it’s also a description for back and knee conditions. Then there’s the effect of aging on the ability to handle alcohol—whereas I could handle numerous beers in the past, now two is my limit; any more than that gives me the feeling of many more than I actually drank, and worse it gives me a “soft” penis. Sometimes, it stays that way much too long, like 5-6 hours. Oh, to be young again!

Another nuisance I’ve noticed about getting old (I’m 67) is that even masturbating takes longer for me to reach a climax. The good news is that groupie girls and swinger women totally like the idea of being with someone who can give them a good “session” without blowing a load too soon and needing a nap, which often leaves the female to fend for herself. I hear considerable whining from women about young guys who are full of sexual stamina for their 2-minute ride, but then are down-for-the-count. The bad news is that, even on porn sets, I take longer to do the money shot than when I was younger. Oh, to be young again!

All San Diego colleges are now back in full session, and some of the groupie girls who graduated last summer gave my phone number to returning dorm girls who are also into the “Daddy Thing”. The good news is that these “referrals” are coming out of the cracks in the walls, and I’m having a lot of sex with these groupie girls who every so often need an hour or two away from studying and collegiate life. My cleaning lady often giggles when she empties my bedroom wastebasket and (apparently) sees the condoms and wrappers. The bad news is that too many groupies are hounding me for sex, and my schedule is full. Candidly, a few of the girls are not all that good in the sack, so I might be thinning the herd soon. After all, a guy needs some free time to not always be having to shower, have sex, clean up the place, etc. I had only one night off last week, and this weekend has been hectic like a revolving door. I feel so “used” sometimes, and I’m finding it weird every time a coed says, “Oh, daddy” as she seems gets lost in her sexual excitement or climax. I hinted about “pawning” a couple of them off onto some friends, but the girls insist that they only want an actual older porn star who happens to remind them of their uncle’s golfing buddies, or a former older high school teacher, or whatever their individual fantasy is. I have to respect their need for privacy about being groupies, but I wish there was an extra 2-3 hours in each day. Oh, to be young again.

I also have family in the San Diego area (a 40-year old son, an 11-year old grandson, and a 5-year old granddaughter; in Arizona, I have a 43 year old daughter and granddaughters ages 16 and 19), so I sneak away from work whenever I can to meet up with my son and his family for sports and school events. Grandpa Dave also gets to take the grandkids out for ice cream, shopping, and local happenings. Family is so very important that I try my best to never miss an opportunity to hang out with them, even if it means saying “no” to a groupie girl wanting to stop by for an hour or two of action between her classes. Besides family time, I firmly believe in some “do-nothing” time every day or two where deadlines, meetings, etc have to take a backseat to “revitalization” peace and quiet! Admittedly, some times, I combine “do nothing” time with exercise time doing my daily brisk (sort of) walks at the beaches before heading home to manage Internet domains (I own 11,000+ of them, both adult and mainstream), answer emails from fans and members of my www.davecummings.com, return phone calls, go to meetings, and put out “fires”.

I’m very much looking forward to doing www.lonestarpornutopia.com in Houston for four fun days in November, as that is also relaxation and sex-fun time.

Stay healthy, safe, and happy!

Dave Cummings

Old Fogey